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Daily Diaries: 6 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Moved In with My Boyfriend

Daily Diaries: 6 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Moved In with My Boyfriend


Going from living with your parents (or roommates, if you're dorming) to living with your partner is certainly a big transition to go through. It's going to have an effect on your current lifestyle and, to an extent, your future, that's why it's not a decision you should take lightly. No matter how much you love each other, there are things that you have to discuss beforehand that will help you realize if you're truly ready to make this move.

You may further learn that your lifestyles are opposites, or you may find that you're more compatible than you think! If you're having a tough time figuring out the best decision to make in your relationship, we talked to someone who's living with her partner and get her insights. Tanya is a 22-year-old Digital Content Producer at Star Cinema who's currently dating Miggy, a Graphic Designer in the same department. They've been together for almost three years, but they started living together (with two other roommates) just a year ago since the two of them are working in the same company, and both lived far away from the office.

After a few months in this setup, they'd been thinking of moving out and sharing an apartment just between the two of them. Fortunately, the two of them got promoted at their jobs this year and could now afford to be an official live-in couple! Now, it's safe to say that they're living the pros and cons of moving in together.

In case you're also thinking of living under the same roof with your S.O., here are the five things she wished she knew before doing it!

1. You will discover pet peeves you didn't know you have.

You might think you know everything there is to know about your partner, but once you live together, you'll see that there are many things you weren't aware of before. This includes weird habits they have that you realize that you don't like. "Simple things like the way he breathes, sneezes, coughs, and snores loudly, those things annoy me so much. Although it doesn't mean that I don't love him anymore, I just can't stand hearing it every day, especially when I just got off work and want to sleep immediately."

2. Your lifestyle is bound to change.

It's easy to go on a diet and exercise at your place if you're living alone or have your own space most of the time. But when you're living with your partner, it can get messy. According to Tanya, "I thought once we move in together, it will be easier for me to go on a diet and exercise daily because that's our plan together before we moved in. But we failed miserably, although I was able to lose weight just by dieting. Ironically, he gained the weight I lost." 

3. You don't get to be more intimate.

Once you move in together, it doesn't automatically mean that you're going to have more sexy time. It's actually going to take a lot of work to keep the spark alive. "Contrary to popular belief that when you and your partner start living together, you're going to be more intimate with each other. That's what I expected, too! In reality, we became more accustomed to each other, which means we'd rather cuddle than have sexy time. It's not that we lost our fire, it's just that I realized having him by my side is enough already."

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4. Your lack of cooking skills may be a major concern.

One of the most stressful conversations to have with anyone is the money talk, and it's way harder when you're talking about your finances with your partner as a live-in couple. "Since my partner and I are handling our money together now, we can't just eat out anywhere we want. Unfortunately, I don't know how to cook many dishes. Although my partner is better at cooking than me, he doesn't know that many meals, too! And the meals he knows how to cook, most of the time have expensive ingredients. It's safe to say I miss my mom's cooking skills!" 

5. Keeping it from your parents isn't as easy as you think.

Unfortunately, until now, there's still a lot of people who don't like the idea of an unmarried couple having a shared space. That's why when you decide to do this move, you have to expect that there are still a few who don't understand this concept. "I should've known it's going to be hard to lie to my parents about this, especially if they're conservative and don't approve of us living together before marriage. But I'm afraid they might disown me, so until know they still don't know about it."

6. Your partner is going to be your buddy for everything.

Aside from the tricky parts of this living situation, one of the best things about moving in together for Tanya is having her partner as her best friend. "From being my constant food buddy to my movie buddy, he has technically become the number one person I choose to hang out with. All I have to do is ask him, and we can go instantly any time of the day. This includes my midnight snack cravings!"

Ultimately, there's a lot to consider before moving in with your partner. But at the end of the day, it's still an exciting and happy milestone that's worth celebrating despite the challenges you're bound to face along the way. As long as you and your partner are both equally willing to communicate and compromise, you'll be on the right path of living happily together under the same roof. 

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