By Maan de Vera
We all have parts of ourselves that we dislike and the road to being comfortable under your own skin is definitely a rocky one. Just when you thought that you have made it and nothing can take away your new found self-esteem, all of your efforts have been knocked out by just one jab of reality.
Suddenly, all of your insecurities start sticking out like a sore thumb. You start suffocating yourself with self-degrading thoughts. Lastly, you turn into your greatest enemy—one that you can never get rid off no matter where you run.
As much as we want to believe that opening up to people who care about is the best way to handle this, the truth is, it’s not always that easy to open during your vulnerable moments. So, when you feel that pang of self-hate, keep these TED Talks a close company.
1. "Looks aren’t everything. Trust me...I’m a model." - Cameron Russell
More often than not, our physical appearance is the perfect breeding ground for self-doubt. It may feel like everyone else is looking polished 24/7 except you. Well, you are not alone and guess what—even the most picture-perfect people in the world A.K.A. fashion models aren’t completely happy with their physical appearances. This talk embodies that what you think about yourself is more important than how you look.
2. "Ending the pursuit of perfection" - Iskra Lawrence
Although we may have different takes on what perfection really means, there is one thing that we can all agree on and that is chasing after this is a taxing task and an often impossible feat. With this in mind, we still blame ourselves when we don’t fit into molds that everyone else consider as beautiful. This TED Talk will teach you that building a healthy relationship with yourself is the only perfect way to counter the feeling of not being enough.
3. "The Dark Side of Self Improvement" - Suzanne Eder
Self-improvement is a good thing. Don’t get us wrong here. It’s always positive when someone is humble enough to accept that we all have rooms for improvement. However, the evil twin of bettering ourselves is the notion that we are meaningless until we reach the point of where we aspire to be. This TED Talk is a nice reminder that we can be both a masterpiece and a work-in-progress at the same time.
Just like any other relationship, loving yourself takes commitment. Some days are good; other says can be less than that. There will be a constant battle with your self-doubts and your self-worth. The only question is: which side are you on?
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