By Maan de Vera
We live in an era where #flexing has been prevalent, and this makes for a perfect breeding ground for humble-braggers to thrive. It sure feels good to celebrate the things that we are proud of about ourselves. But there is a thin line between acknowledging the positive aspects of your life and overly boasting about them. As we all know, people cross this line everyday, and it gets pretty annoying.
But here is an uncomfortable question: What if you are unconsciously humble-bragging?
Keep on reading because we are here to tell which signs to look out for and how to deal with them.
1. You only start conversations that would put the spotlight on you.
We get it. When something great happens, it’s fairly acceptable that we would want to share it with the rest of the world. That’s fine. However, you might want to reconsider yourself when all of your conversations or posts are all about these things.
What to do about it: Remember that there are other interesting things to talk about other than yourself. If you keep on using the words “I," "me," and "my” a lot, take a step back and try to steer the topic somewhere else.
2. You respond to other people’s story with your story all the time.
When someone tells us stuff that we can relate to, it’s perfectly fine to have the urge to tell our story as well. It’s only when you’ve been completely hijacking the entire narrative to you that you should consider backing off and let someone else express themselves.
What to do about it: Listen. Focus on what you can learn from the person you are talking with rather than what you can reply. Ask questions that genuinely intrigue you. Respond without the intention of trying to get the attention for yourself.
3. You fish for flattery by downplaying your strengths.
Have you ever felt cute one day, but no one took notice of you? We know that feeling, too. While it’s very tempting to resort to posting a selfie with a self-derogatory caption or randomly bursting out with a belittling remark about yourself so that people will instead say good things about you, think twice.
What to do about it: Feel good about yourself that it doesn’t matter what other people think of you. Harness the confidence that you have in you, and don’t let the lack of praise make you feel less.
At the end of it all, nothing is sweeter than compliments that stemmed organically from others. Come to think of it, wouldn’t it be so much easier when you no longer need to force an affirmation from everyone else?
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