I thought up of the handle “iamsuperbianca” way back in college, and from then on, it stuck. I had no idea it would set the tone for the rest of my career—and my life—imposing this unspoken pressure of trying to live up to the superlative “super.” But one thing I’ve learned is this: We can’t do it ALL, and that’s okay.
Sheryl Sandberg shares in her interviews and writings that “No one can have it all.” I believe this to be true. Maybe nowadays, because of social media, women can seem to “do it all” and “have it all,” but in reality, we don’t. And again, that is okay. And that is normal.
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Whenever a mother and wife is at work, that is quality time away from her family. Whenever a woman takes a vacation leave and spends time with her family, that is time away from being productive at work. Whenever a woman is out with her friends for girl time, that time is when her relatives or her help at home takes care of her family. Whenever a woman is able to go out to get her nails done, that time is when her partner looks after their kids. Time spent doing one thing, is time away from something else. A woman can’t be in two places at once, which is where her support system steps in. We can “do it all” only with the help of those around us, and only when we can accept that there are times we will have to choose between one or the other. It’s okay to not be able to “do it all”! As long as we are doing things the best we can, that’s what matters.
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