by Kassandra Flores
Chalk Campus Correspondent
Living in a society where we are conditioned to think that we have to live by someone else’s standards and ideologies, trying to fit in a specific place we thought we should belong to, and the endless judgments being thrown at us, loving ourselves and owning our natural beauty seems to be one of the hardest things to do.
It is unfortunate how messages from other people, specifically the media, help perpetuate beauty standards. And if your physical appearance does not equate to those ideologies, chances are, people will mock you and make fun of what sets you apart.
I too suffered and have my insecurities even up to this day, but I didn’t let them eat me up and learned how to own my natural beauty, and here’s how I did it:
1. Accepting Every Part Of Me
I accepted the things that I cannot change, acknowledged the person that I am and the things that I am blessed with. Every time I wake up in the morning, I always make sure to remind myself that my uniqueness is what will make me stand out from the crowd.
2. Looking At The Bright Side
I started with listing down all of my good traits and the things I believe I am best at. I tried to see the good in what others believed to be bad and took every rejection as my motivation to strive harder and excel at the things that make me genuinely blissful.
3. Focusing More On The Things That Makes Me Happy
I engaged myself to the things I enjoy doing the most. I spent most of my free times with the people that accept me for who I am and those who make me feel good because when you feel good, you look good. And I kept myself busy with the things that bring out the happiness in me, gives me no time to think of other people’s opinion about me.
4. Letting Go Of Judgments
I refrained from constantly comparing myself to others, trying to change myself, and fitting to the society’s idea of beautiful. I became less concerned about what other people has to say about me because in reality, we’re all unique. I learned that if you own the things that make you different from others, no one will take these “flaws” against you.
5. Building A Healthy Relationship With Myself
Forgiveness is essential in building a healthy relationship with anyone and more importantly, within oneself. Any mistakes I made in the past are all part of life and I learned something from them. All the things I’ve done before, whether good or bad should never be forgotten because eventually it helped me to become the person I am now. I learned to let go of the inner perfectionist in me because I realized that the hardest enemy to beat is not the society but myself. I will always be my number one critic and basher and by building a healthy relationship with myself, I was able to own the beauty that God blessed me with.
Always bear in mind that you are not born to be perfect, for your imperfections are what will make you stand out from the crowd. You are you, and you deserve to be loved just the way you are.
We at Chalk.ph believe that nurturing our inner beauty should be at the top of our priority list. And to encourage everyone to join in this cause, we’re prepping an event to do just that! #GlowGurl is a beauty fair happening on Aug. 18-19 at U.P. Town Center. From booths offering the hottest products to workshops from inspiring glow-getters, this gathering is something you shouldn’t miss!
We hope you can join us in celebrating our own kind of beautiful! We can’t wait to see you there, gorgeous!
Co-presented by OPPO, Revlon; Brought to you by Beautybeat.ph
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