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In Focus: 6 Ways To Be Kinder To Yourself

In Focus: 6 Ways To Be Kinder To Yourself



Often times people focus on giving love. They give, and they give to the point that they tend to forget to give love to themselves. But that shouldn't be the case. In the words of the LGBTQ+ icon, RuPaul Charles, “If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?"

Being kind to oneself is a form of self-love. We can never change the fact that we are our own worst critic but we should learn not to be too harsh. We often beat ourselves up when we do something that isn't at par to what we expect from us, but loving oneself—even though it is a struggle for most of us—is a beautiful thing to feel and to witness. To quote the great Oscar Wilde, “To love oneself is is the beginning of a life-long romance.”

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Here, we list six ways to show yourself small forms of self-love that hopefully will inspire and motivate you to fall back in love with yourself more than any other person in your life:

1. Invest in yourself. Enjoy your own company, and have more "me time" than you usually do. Read a book, listen to your favorite songs, watch your favorite anime, or enjoy a hot cup of tea. Do not rush anything that you do alone. Fall back in love with yourself, if you feel like you've lost your way. You'll realize that you've been missing out on that personal growth, so make sure to pay closer attention to who you are at present and who you're becoming.

2. Prioritize yourself. Give yourself the things you’d willingly give others. Self-love isn't selfish as long as you’re not hurting other people. Putting yourself first isn’t wrong. If anything, it's the first step to giving love to the people you care about.

3. Forgive yourself more often. As every human being, we all mess up sometimes. If you find it easy forgiving other people, you should learn how to give yourself a break, too. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You are not a bad person. We all make mistakes, and it's important that we don't just ourselves for every ugly feeling that we have or every misstep that we take.

4. Appreciate yourself more. With every negative thing you say about yourself, you should match it up with two compliments. Look at yourself in the mirror and say a couple of good things about yourself. We're sure you’ll be able to mutter a simple “You are enough,"  “I am worthy," or “You are beautiful” to yourself. Always remind yourself about your good qualities.

5. Stop trying to be perfect. Accepting that you cannot attain perfection in this lifetime will help you ease the pressure you put on yourself. It will lessen your daily frustrations of being imperfect. But you have to realize that nobody is. Always keep in mind that you are human, you’re born to be flawsome. You should know that you are enough on your own, and you will always be.

6. Always be kind to others. The Golden Rule: Do onto others what you want others do unto you. How you treat yourself might reflect on how you treat others. You know that you’re doing the right thing when you go home alone without the need to look back to check if you're not bleeding. 

Of course, there will still be days where you'll feel worse than usual, or you'll still be your own worst critic, or you'll still disappoint yourself somehow. But know that you should take a chill pill and go easy on yourself. Remember that you are human, you make mistakes, and that is completely okay. And always, always remember that self-love isn't selfish, you should have lots of it.

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