Say, you need someone to talk to about your love life, who do you reach out to first? Your girlfriends, right? Or your sister or mom even! But ever thought of going to another guy friend for his opinion? If you want to understand your partner better, seeking advice from a man's perspective might just be the kind of advice you needed.
For those of you who need it, here are some relationship tips from our #ABSCBNLifestyleHotshots!
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1. Be honest.
Jappy Agoncillo: “Always be honest, always be open. Don't be ashamed of what you like. If you like Hannah Montana, go for it! If you like death metal bands, that's cool too. Just share it with the guy! If the guy really like you, he's gonna accept whatever it is weird about you.”
James Lee: “Just be honest. And then, if people know you from the start then they won’t really expect too many things from you that they know that you’re not and so it’s not going to be difficult to maintain something that’s not really you, especially if you want a long-term relationship so yeah.”
Jay Avellana: “Just be honest with yourself. Be transparent and be straightforward.”
Bryan Benedict: “(Laughs) Don’t lie. Yun naman talaga, actually. Don’t lose a person’s trust; you can never regain it back na parang fully. 'Tsaka pag nawala yung trust ng isang tao, talagang may ibubunga yan na ‘di maganda. And eventually, pagmumulan yan ng maraming bagay na hindi maganda. Kaya una pa lang, don’t lie. You can never give an excuse for a lie, kahit na white lie.”
Miguel Aytona: “I think communication is key. Whenever you guys have problems, it's usually the guy who would try to go to the girl and fix it. The guy will always try to say 'sorry.' But the girl has to communicate din.”
Mauro Daez: “If you keep things from your partner it can belt on the trust. So always have that open communication.”
Martin Javier: “Don't be afraid to open up with your partner or at least let the partner (the guy) open up with you. 'Cause some guys, they're not very comfortable in, you know, opening themselves even if they're in a long-term relationship already. So I think, you have to create that mood in the relationship na magiging comfortable yung guy to really open up to you. 'Pag ganon kasi, I think, the relationship will be a lot smoother, and it will be a lot more progressive for—on both ends.”
Martin Reyes: “Always be patient. It's always good to talk to each other no matter what. I mean, I guess, never end the day that there's a problem or argument that wasn't solved. I think that's the key.”
2. Trust one another.
Mostafa Elezali: “From my point of view, trust and respect are the most important things in a relationship.”
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3. Happiness is all that matters.
Javi Cang: “Don't take it too fast. Life is a long journey; savor all of those memorable moments with other people.”
Chris Lopez: “Make sure you’re happy and well-treated, well taken care of and don’t compromise your morals or what it is you want. Don’t stay in a situation where you’re not happy.”
LA Aguinaldo: “Don’t be scared to love the person, if sometimes you feel you love them more than they love you, because that’s just a reflection of who they are. But if you show your whole heart, you show (them) your love; it’s a reflection of how you love. The other person will see that in a way and bring their guard down. And I think it’s just, don’t be scared also to walk away when you think it’s time to walk away. Cause there’s always something for you, at the end of the day. There’s always someone who will understand you for who you are and won’t try to change you, but instead, make you more of who you are.”
4. And self-love, too.
DJ Perez: “Love yourself, ‘cause I feel like a lot of women are just giving in to whatever men want, so you should also prioritize yourself, career first. It doesn’t mean the guy would take care of you, if you’re so fallen in love and you lose your career in the process and the guy leaves you, what good you are to, you know? More of really just taking care of yourself, stable and secure.”
Gerick Manalo: “Don't give everything. Have some reservation for yourself. And do not be obsessed with the guy.”
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Photographs by Vyn Radovan