Beloved TV sitcom Friends has taught us many great things about friendship, love, and life. And no matter how outdated it becomes by the day, one of the greatest pieces of relationship advice anyone can pick up from binge-watching thi classic series is that it's never too early to find out whether your boyfriend is as good a roommate as he is a date (see episode "The One With The Ball.")
Living in with your boyfriend is a huge taboo for an especially conservative culture such as our own. When you're in your early 20s, any Filipino parent would probably get a heart attack from discovering that their little girl had been all alone with her boyfriend under the same roof. Traditional relatives will expect you cradling an infant against your bosom at the next family reunion once they hear about you sharing the same bed as your boyfriend.
The concern is understandable, but let me tell you about what it's actually like behind closed doors with your beau once you've started living together in your early 20s.
It's not always about "sexy times." One of any parents' greatest reasons for objecting the idea of you and your boyfriend living together is the fear of their little girl getting knocked up at an early age. When you've been together for quite a while, that primal urge in you that makes you want to not get your hands off each other subsides and you find other things to enjoy. Quite frankly, I enjoy the astonished faces of our friends when we say we can sleep together without anything "sexy" happening.
Every now and then, it gets tiring to be with just one another. Being each other's roommate is an exciting prospect. Think of all the things you finally get to do once you finally have some place you can both call your home! At first, it's going to feel as if the outside world doesn't even matter once you lock your doors. Sooner or later, however, you're going to want some time to get some air away from one another, and that's okay because it doesn't necessarily mean you love each other any less.
Popoy and Basha from A Second Chance are so relatable. Perhaps one of the best acting we've ever seen from Bea Alonzo and John Lloyd can be found in the sequel of One More Chance. When the fight finally reached its most heated moment because someone *cough* Popoy *cough* forgot to pay their electric bills, it all felt so relatable because it does happen in real life. You are going to fight about unpaid bills and dirty dishes, and unless you want to sleep on the floor or feel guilty about making you S.O. sleep on the floor, it's best to let each other breathe before you say anything more you might regret later on.
Financial realities are going to catch up to you. As uncomfortable as it is to talk discuss financial matters when money should be no object, you both have to learn how to manage your finances responsibly. Given that you have someone to share your monthly expenses with you makes saving money easier, but be careful not to go too crazy with your impulsive purchases or else you might find yourselves a few bucks short on the deadline of your rent.
You find adventure in the smallest things. Remember all the stuff you said you were going to do before you finally moved in together? News flash: You will eventually run out of things to do, shows to watch, and places to go. But the good thing is that you will learn to make something great out of something as small as cleaning the house or doing the groceries. Both of you will learn to find enjoyment in the simple things in life which just goes to show that anything can be an adventure with the right person.
The feeling of coming home to your boyfriend after a long day at work has got to be one of the best feelings in the world. And while there's so much more to living together than goodnight kisses and waking up next to each other, it's not always as bad as worst-case-scenario-minded people make it seem.
If you steer it the right way, living with your S.O. is a huge step into maturity, and it can help the two of you as young individuals and partners. As long as you know what you're doing, and you keep your priorities in check, there's no need to worry yourself about the stigma and realizing everyone else's fears.
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