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In Focus: 5 Things To Ask Yourself Before Dating Someone From Your Past Again

In Focus: 5 Things To Ask Yourself Before Dating Someone From Your Past Again



Running into someone whom you’ve dated before, during the most unexpected time, is not impossible in this small world of ours. Sometimes, it means nothing at all. But what if the universe tells you otherwise?

More than the casual “hi,” you exchange numbers and start catching up. Then later on, you both find yourselves enjoying each other’s company again. Of course, the two of you had your own reasons why it didn’t work out the first time. So before deciding to get serious again and take things to the next level, here are some important things to ask yourself before dating again someone from your past:

1. Do I still like him/her the way I used to?
It’s important to reevaluate what kind of qualities this person has and you need to consider whether these traits still make it to your checklist or you’ve become a different person now, looking for something else other than what your ex has.

2. Are we on the same page?
In a world full of uncertainties and complexities, you must not forget to assess whether the both of you want the same thing or not. You better check first if you both want to take it slow and easy or finally commit and get into a serious relationship.

3. Is now the right timing?
Some love stories are perfect until timing messes it up. And maybe, this was what caused you and your ex to go your separate ways. But now that you have your second chance, before taking it to the next level, you need to ask your self is the timing now is finally right.

4. Are we both mature enough to give it another try?
It’s true that sometimes, the best way to grow is to grow apart. Of course, you both changed in one way or another and this is a question not to miss: Are the two of you more mature now to handle things differently to make it work one more time? It will always be one of the factors you need to consider.

5. Am I ready to take this risk?
You’ve tried it before and it didn’t work out. But what if it does now? Opening up your heart again to someone from your past is a lot of risk. Yes, you both may enjoy the good times at first but when you get to the more serious part, are you brave enough and willing to give this person another chance?


Sometimes in life, second chances are most welcome. But before giving this out to someone from your past, ask yourself these things to make sure it gets better this time.


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