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In Focus: 5 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship and Why You Need to Let Go

In Focus: 5 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship and Why You Need to Let Go



While many of us may not have dealt with this directly, toxic relationships are something that we've all heard and talked about. We've all had our fair share of bad experiences in relationships, whether it's with a loved one, a former BFF, or a significant other.

If a relationship is putting a strain on your being and you're already thinking of ways to cut it off, chances are, you're already dealing with a toxic relationship. But if you're still on the fence, here are more telltale signs that will tell you it's time to let it go once and for all! 

1. He constantly breaks your trust. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and it should be you and your partner's priority. Without trust, making the relationship work would be next to impossible. Nothing weakens a relationship more than lies and deceit.


2. You find a need to change who you really are when you're around him. If the relationship feels right, there's no need to be someone you're not. But if you keep thinking that you need to impress your partner or that you have to adjust your personality just so he'll like you then thats a red flag right there! A good relationship should be helping you discover yourself better, and if you feel like you're losing your identity in the process of your relationship, it's time to reassess.


3. The relationship feels like an obligation rather than a choice. If you feel dreadful than happy spending time with your partner, you probably shouldn't be in it in the first place. Think about it, if you already feel that way early on in the relationship, what more if you progress into the next steps—engagement and marriage? Being in a relationship should never feel forced. Being with your partner should satisfy you and not stress you out! 


4. Your partner plays the “relationship scorecard.” Is your partner keeping score, as in, he blames you for past mistakes you've made in the relationship, but glosses over his? Does he always point out the sacrifices he makes for the two of you, but never acknowledges your own sacrifices? If he only sees his worth in the relationship and not yours then something is seriously wrong. Don't get caught in this trap! 



5. His life revolves around you and only you. At first, the idea might sound sweet, but you’ll soon realize that being together all the freaking time isn't healthy. Imagine not being allowed to plan or do even the most mundane activities without checking with your partner first—totally not cool! What we need in a partner is not another parent, but a companion and someone who can make our lives better, not bitter.


To be honest, there’s nothing wrong with loving and desiring to be loved in return, but we should never forget that loving and valuing ourselves is just as important (if not more important) as loving our partner. Relationships come and go, but our relationship with ourselves lasts for a lifetime. So never settle, and learn to let go of people who don't contribute to the growth of your well-being. You got this, girl!


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