Being a single mom is no easy feat—especially if you are an "it girl" who juggles between jobs to give a good life to her children.
Recently, model Kit Barraquias is basking in the limelight after claiming that Fil-Swiss race car driver Marlon Stockinger, boyfriend of 2015 Miss Universe Pia Wurtzbach, is the alleged biological father of her twin girls Lily and Violet. While not wanting the attention (she made her social media accounts private after the revelation), everyone is curious to know about her.
What do we know about her? For one, she has been modelling since 18 years old, and is currently working in the finance industry, a far cry from her modelling career. Aside from appearing in different campaigns and covers, Kit is proud of her daughters, who also have a career in modelling. Yes, Kit raised both Lily and Violet on her own: a feat single mothers are capable of.
Kit's daughters Lily and Violet
According to statistics from Trade Union Congress of the Philippines, around 14 million Filipinos are single parents, constituting around 14 to 15 percent of the population "who carry the burden of raising their family by themselves."
As Kit joins other single moms like Jodi Sta. Maria, Karla Estrada, and Phoemela Baranda —all three having their own share of life lessons, here are a few reasons why we should not shame single moms again:
1. Doing two jobs by itself. Unlike in a traditional parenting setup, more is expected from single moms as they take the role of both mother and father for their children. In Kit's case, juggling between her work in finance and her duties to her twins makes it all impressive as she does everything on her own. “Challenges as a mom [are] balancing everything... It’s not easy at all!” Kit said in an interview.
2. It is not entirely their fault that they have a child out of wedlock. Unless you know their story, it is wrong to call single moms immoral for having illegitimate children. What if she was raped? What if she had to separate from her husband due to marital issues? Every single mom has her own story why her life turned out that way. "It's up to you, of course, to make your child feel loved no matter what," an article in Parents said.
3. Single moms need to socialize. Should you spot them at a social gathering, don't roll your eyes on them and accuse them of not being responsible parents. Single moms also need a night out as well! "Socializing does not indicate only go out with friends or going out on a date. It can also include your pursuing a hobby too," an article in Boldsky explains. "Not socializing at all might have a negative impact on your child or children."
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Photographs from pexels.com, Gojackiego.com, and Kit Barraquias' personal Facebook page