There are many modern, blended families in our world today. Some couples have endured early heartbreak, a marriage split, or simply the failure of a relationship. In many cases, when unity seems impossible, many are advised to move onto the next chapter, not stress about the mess and are told not to look back. Sometimes, though, there are different situations. When enough time has passed, it's more about finding the grace to make room for someone important and less about closing the door on someone you think you don't need in your life anymore. A picture was posted recently by Kai Palomares, the mother of Echo's son, Santino, and in it she shared that she celebrated her birthday with her son, Santino, his father, Jericho Rosales, and Echo's wife, top style influencer and digital entrepreneur Kim Jones.
Cynics might call this photo "awkward" but those who live in a more positive light, just like the people in the photo, agree that this is what it truly means to be together and make room for one another as a modern family. Certain people in the comments on the post were particularly moved to see them all together.
This Lent, perhaps, this is only one of many real-life stories that are there to inspire us to forgive. Forgiveness is good for all parts of us, the mind, body, heart, and soul.
Medical findings from JOHN HOPKINS Medicine: “There is an enormous physical burden to being hurt and disappointed,” says Karen Swartz, M.D., director of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The Johns Hopkins Hospital. To her, forgiveness is more than just what you say “It is an active process in which you make a conscious decision to let go of negative feelings whether the person deserves it or not,” she says.
We all also need to be wary of the side-effects of bitterness: "Chronic anger puts you into a fight-or-flight mode, which results in numerous changes in heart rate, blood pressure, and immune response. Forgiveness, however, calms stress levels, leading to improved health." - www.hopkinsmedicine.org
If there's someone you've crossed off your "list" and have determined to never consider accepting in person again, perhaps it's time to release them, at least on the inside, from what they've done to you or even what they "owe" you. At the very least, you'll develop less age lines. A wise pastor once mentioned that it is ideal to forgive quickly and then trust slowly. Relationships are rebuilt over time. You can still show compassion and remain wise but it all doesn't need to be rushed. Overall, one thing this whole story proves for sure is that forgiveness takes time. Sometimes the oddest, most ideal outcomes are possible but if you don't see that in your situation, the perfect time might be just waiting around the bend.
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Photographs from Instagram.com/kai_pal