First of all, we get it.
All those hugot posts and #WalangForever rants on social media exist for a reason. You’ve been madly and hopelessly in love once too. Back then, it was all rainbows and butterflies. He said he wouldn’t hurt you so you had faith without any reservations.
Yet he messed it up. Big time.
What’s worse is that it’s not the first time someone shattered your world. He’s probably the nth person who made you a promise, then unapologetically left you half-broken and half-empty inside. You’re still hurting and struggling to pull yourself together, and promise, we totally understand.
Believing in love all over again doesn’t make sense. And it rubs you the wrong way each time a happy couple’s bragging how great their relationship is. Because at the back of your mind, you don’t believe it’ll last. Or true, at the very least. So you make it a goal to save them and let them see the beginning of the end.
But hey, you don’t have to save them. You have to save yourself.
Building walls doesn’t keep you safe from heartache. Rather, it stops you from moving on and limits your chance to find a better place. A better person to be with. You’re not giving up on love or forever. You’re giving up on yourself. What makes you think you deserve that?
Yes, it takes time to see the silver lining. But never get tired of waiting and hoping. No dating app can tell you if he’s the one, all you can do is to give it a try. And no matter how many times you cry or fail, believe that he will still come when you're more than ready to receive him in your life.
Love doesn’t stop the moment you feel pain. It stops the moment you give up. So don’t. Guard your heart but never ever close your door. Forever does exist. And it’s up to you to make it happen.
P.S. Team #WalangForever gang leader, don't be afraid to begin again. You're bigger than that.
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