When some people find it hard to handle their emotions, you’re one to keep it chill. Seemingly unaffected, you make people raise their eyebrows. Are you indifferent? Are you passive? Are you both or probably something else? It then becomes a wonder for some how you do what you do, to keep your calm given all sorts of stimulus in a reactive generation.
You may not know it yet, but if you’ve experienced these things mentioned below then you could at least get the hint: you’ve finally matured emotionally! And yes, that should make you feel good.
- You can navigate your emotions well.
You know when you’re happy or when you’re ecstatic. You know when you’re annoyed or when you’re enraged. But the point is, you can tell the difference. You know what emotion would last just a few minutes or what needs more time to process. You think through a myriad of your moods and that is why you can easily identify your feelings.
- You don’t dwell on a single emotion for too long.
Every day, everyone is faced with too many emotional triggers. While you allow yourself to feel it all, you don’t dwell on it too long. You get mad, yes. But you also get over it soon enough not to cause any more drama. And when you get happy, you try your best to pass it on.
- You reserve judgment until further notice.
You or your friends may have your own impression or have heard stories about a certain someone. But instead of setting it in stone, you make the effort to get to know the person. And by effort, it means you become intentional in giving someone the benefit of the doubt, or better yet, a clean slate.
- You sometimes don’t get the outbursts.
Something happened and someone reacted too quick, flipped the table too soon, and spoke a bit too much. All you could think of was “why”. You won’t easily get it because you’ve already been so used to processing things first—your feelings more importantly—before giving it away to the world.
- You let your emotions to be just that—emotions.
While feelings tend to get the best of some people, you’ve recognized that they are nothing but that—emotions that come and go. And so you refuse to let it be a driving force in making your life decisions (or at least most of it).
- You try to understand as much as you can.
The main key to reserving judgment is to try to understand as much as you can. You know that no people are ever exactly alike and this prepares you for all those that you have yet to meet. You get that in most cases, being understood is probably better than being loved.
- You cultivate better relationships.
As a general result of the things stated above, you get to forge better relationships with the people around you. You might notice it in small degrees but it would definitely be noticeable. Now you don’t wait for days or weeks to make up after a fight with your dad or friend. It also wouldn’t be too hard to say sorry even if you’re not in the wrong simply because you just want to put ill feelings behind and move forward. You just value the relationships more than your ever-changing feelings (ego, pride, and mood swings included).