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The Six Fix: Been Single For A While But Now Ready To Date Again? Here Are Your 'First Date' Tips!

The Six Fix: Been Single For A While But Now Ready To Date Again? Here Are Your 'First Date' Tips!

Dating these days isn't the same as it used to be. More than likely you're not going to scribble down a phone number, place, and time into your "filofax" or paper planner. You're more likely to exchange numbers and internet handles digitally, the smartphone way, agree on a time and place via direct messaging on social media, and you're all set. Dating has become much more of a casual thing and less of a huge deal externally but we all still love getting to know people. Double tap these days and you've literally given someone your "heart." The modern aim at the onset is primarily to merely get to know and have fun with an actual human being and see what happens. Impressing one another is pretty much a hoped-for by product of said encounter most of the time. "As long as it's fun, you'll be okay, that's all that matters," friends reassure one another.  

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Modern dating at times feels almost like crossing a rope bridge together where a mere gust of wind causing a huge sway sends people squealing and hobbling back to the cliffside. You have a lot more people in their late 20s up to their mid-30s and beyond in the dating loop now as compared to before.   

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There are a couple among this set who might feel a little out of practice or prone to cold feet prior to the date given the digital dilemmas dating presents nowadays. That might be you, so here are a couple of ways to take a chill pill and sail smoothly before showing up.

 

1. Think of it as one more appointment in your existing itinerary, don't dwell on it being a date. Don't let it be the headline of your day, you do lots of important stuff! Sure you can be secretly excited and smile to yourself 'bout it but there's no need to give something way too much energy before it's actually taking place.   

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Fill up that calendar as per usual and don't treat the day any different as the day before, with the exception of a couple of additional cosmetic tricks and freshening up.

2. Get dressed and look nice but don't overdo it unless it's a fine dining venue. Excess bells and whistles (like hair and makeup that call too much attention) might scream "needy." Just be a slightly fresher version of yourself on regular days. You know, you gotta beam 'cause you need to get somewhere. But don't switch on your high-beams for the oncoming lane!

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3. We highly recommend the energy of a group outing with your funniest friends prior to the date itself. There's nothing that gets your blood moving like laughter. Just like singers warm up for a performance, you can certainly opt to warm up socially with multiple humans before meeting with just one. Also, funny friends who send you belly-laughing pull the best and most vulnerable side out of you and dress you in relaxation. There's nothing like showing up to meet someone with the energy of enjoyment in tow already.

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4. Be game for nifty show and tell. Bring something tangible to share. An unexpected icebreaker to have on board would be to bring something meaningful to show or share with your date, whether it's a book, flowers,  photos, or a trinket with a story behind it. Let's face it today's safe game in dating has never been more rampant but it's added charm when you add a dash of healthy vulnerability. You're putting yourself out there, might as well  make it memorable. Peter Pan "kiss," anyone? 

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5. Keep away from  lurking over their social media profile from the time you both confirm to meet up. Why lurk when you're going to have an actual look within a matter of hours? Avoid creeping through advanced info that they're not voluntarily giving, it's unnecessary cause for overthinking. 

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6. Have a good long workout the night before or on the morning of your date. The best way to cut down overthinking by half—especially if you really like the person you're meeting up with—is to definitely break a good sweat the night before or on the morning of your scheduled date. This adds to the relaxation and good positive energy bank you want with you. Look alive.

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