By Joelle Ngo
If you’ve seen LizQuen’s new movie My Ex and Whys, you’ll see how trust plays a massive role in every relationship. And what’s particularly striking in this movie is how it genuinely depicted the struggles of a relationship when trust is broken.
For those who haven’t seen it, here’s a little recap: Cali (Liza Soberano) is a blogger who posts unanswered questions she has about love, drawn from her hatred towards men because of her ex-boyfriend Gio (Enrique Gil) who had once cheated on her. After some time, the two meet again and are forced to work on a project together after they both gain a following online. Gio tries to win Cali back, but with the latter’s trust issues, he finds himself going through a tough time gaining her trust back. But what makes it all the more heartbreaking is Cali’s struggle to fight her own fears about love.
So, to avoid the unnecessary heartbreak that Cali and Gio went through, here are some of the lessons we can learn from their experience. If you've yet to see the film in theaters, there may be spoiler-y details here—you've been warned!
1. There is no love without trust. In My Ex and Whys, Cali's bad breakup with Gio leads her to develop a distrust for men that she grows bitter about love. She lives with this for a long time, becoming so guarded that she leaves no opening for new (or old) flames to get through. As we all know, love is built on trust, and there’s no way a relationship can conquer the odds without it. People say love conquers all, but it’s actually trust that compels us to believe it. Trusting is certainly more difficult than loving, but it’s also much more powerful in a sense that it reinforces love.
2. Love comes with risks. As they say, "Loving someone is like giving him/her a loaded gun pointed at your heart and trusting that person not to pull the trigger." Cali was so scared of getting hurt again because someone she dearly loved once pulled the trigger. But what if the love that we're afraid of is the love that will build us up again? There's always the reality of getting your heart broken in loving because it’s part of the process, but we can also choose to remember that there’s also joy and fulfillment once we’ve done it right.
3. You are not just your heartbreak. In Cali’s case, she obsesses over being cheated on that she lets negativity take over her life. When we want to prove a point, we often lose sight of the person we’re becoming just to feel that we’re right, so never let anger rule your emotions.
4. People can change for the better. A former playboy, Gio has a hard time winning Cali back once they've broken up because she refuses to believe that he can change. We know all too well that people make mistakes, and some people really do change. It just depends on whether or not we’re gonna choose to see it.
5. Your past does not dictate your future. In the film, Cali is afraid of loving and trusting others mainly because her life’s biggest disappointments stem from failed relationships. Meanwhile, Gio—who has a rep for being the opposite of a "stick to one" man—tries his best to move on from his babaero ways and works hard to win Cali back. What happens to us may sometimes be out of our control, but we can always be courageous enough to choose how we’ll react to our circumstances. And that makes all the difference.
My Ex and Whys is on its second blockbuster week in cinemas! Don't forget to catch it at a theater near you!
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