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Paano Gumawa ng Pastillas (non-bitter version)

Paano Gumawa ng Pastillas (non-bitter version)

“Mag-handa ka ng powdered milk, condensed milk tsaka asukal.

Oo, kelangan ‘yon para matamis, kasing tamis ng pag-ibig mo. Para malagkit, gaya ng mga titig mo.

Pag-haluin mo yung powdered tsaka condensed milk.

Parang ‘yon buhay lang natin na pinag-krus ng landas at pinag-tagpo. Yung mga ayaw mo na gusto ko,

o ayaw ko na gusto mo, ok lang basta mag-kasama tayo.

Pag sa tingin mong okay na, kumuha ka ng isang kutsara mula dun sa hinalo mo tas bilugin mo.

Kahit maka-ilang ikot pa tayo ng mundo, tingin ko magkikita at magkikita padin tayo. Kasi ganun naman talaga pag sadyang mahal mo diba?

Tapos okay na yon. Ibalot mo lang tas iwan mo na.

Parang un pag-mamahalan lang natin, alaga at tyaga lang, sasarap na nang kusa.”

 

From the girl who had heart broken to the girl who tried to mend albeit under the scrutiny and judgment of the public eye, Angelica Jane Yap, 21, is now the girl given with another shot at love. And even when the search seemed over, the journey to a love fulfilled has only begun.

READ: The Recipe of Pastillas Girl

 

Till the heartache ends

“Heartbreak is a lesson,” says Angelica.

Disguised in what could possibly be the most inconvenient way to learn, heartbreak is still a lesson. Maybe it’s a thing for Filipinos to always see the bright side of everything, but it’s a trait that’s both admirable and positive.

Isa siyang patunay na tao ka kapag nasaktan ka. And ‘yon ang makakapag-patibay sayo eh, kasi hindi mo mararanasan un sarap ng pagmamahal kung di mo naranasan un sakit ng pagmamahal. Di mo ma-eenjoy un may mahal na mahal na mahal ka hanggat di ka nasasaktan eh, kasi dun mo mapapatunayan na ‘oh kahit nasaktan ako, babangon ka, mag-mamahal ka ulit.”

 READ: Closure: It's More About Managing Your Expectations

 

The phases of breakup

Probably aside from your own experience, Angelica is one who has gained a great deal of understanding on what one goes through when going through a breakup. In her own words, read on what she thinks are these stages of a hellish breakup.

Asa stage. After the breakup, andun ka sa asa stage, asa ka na itetext ka pa niya. Aasa ka na hahabulin ka pa niya, aasa ka na ‘wait lang, baka mahal pa niya ko.’ Pero kung ilang days na un nakalipas at hindi niya parin ikaw tine-text, andun ka na sa…

Desperate moves. Na ikaw na un gagawa ng way na ‘Hoy, bakit di ka nagtetext sakin? Hoy, ano di mo na ko mahal?’ And then, pag sinagot niya na wala na talaga, andun ka na talaga sa…

Grief. Nagi-grieve ka na, na ang sakit sakit na hindi na niya ko mahal. And then andun ka na sa iiyak mo na lahat. Tapos pag napagod ka na umiyak, dun na pumapasok un listahan ko ng pagmo-move on.

Bitterness. andun ako sa delete mo na siya kahit saan. Delete mo na siya sa Instagram, i-unfriend mo siya kung kina-kailangan sa Facebook. Actually medyo bitter ako pero I think kung ‘yon yung makaka-tulong sayo mag-move on, di ka nila pwedeng i-judge. Kung ‘yon ka-bitteran na un ang makakapag-pamove on sayo at eventually makakapag-let go sayo, I think they should do it eh, di lang ako. 

Acceptance. Tapos pag ok na edi add mo na ulit, friends na kayo eh. Tapos kapag ok ka na, ayusin mo un issues mo. Tapos eventually may darating na mas okay. Na mas better, un acceptance na parang mafe-feel mon a “aww may nagca-care na naman sayo na bago , and kapag ready ka na, goooo. Love love love na ulit.

 

Taking it slow

Amidst what could be considered a love whirlwind for Angelica, she says she is just taking things slow. “Kung tingin niyo na siya na, wag niyo muna ibigay lahat. Kasi mamaya kapag binigay niyo na lahat, nasaktan ka lang. Make sure na ‘yon pagmamahal na binigay mo, it’s the same amount na binibigay niya. Kasi once na parang mas mahal mo siya, o mas mahal ka niya, doon nagkakaron ng problema.”

 

The pastillas recipe that made Angelica famous is only a proof of how something bitter can eventually turn to a love gentler, and sweeter. And as evident in Angelica’s words, while a broken heart doesn’t remain the same, the will to love, however, never goes away. 

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